I wanted to let you know that last night I asked my boss for more money for the work I’m doing (well overdue) and acknowledgement of the fact that I’m actually in a manager role not supervisor.
It wasn’t “easy” but it was sooooo much easier thanks to our work together.
Before I met with him last night I was able to anticipate which physical stresses might come up (quick shallow breathing, shakey hands, etc) and sort of talk myself out of needing them and explained to myself that those things wouldn’t actually help.
And I sought some support from some co-workers I respect and used that and my own awareness to let myself know or reinforce the knowledge that I was worth it, I am of value etc.
When I explained my position to my boss I was calm, able to control my breathing (I barely had to think about it), my hands didn’t shake, my voice was strong, my mind stayed with me and didn’t race around but just keep guiding me through what I needed to say. I was calm, firm, confident and friendly.
He’s going to give me an offer tonight and while I do care, I know that whatever he says matters far less than the fact that I was able to look him in the eye, tell him I am a valuable component of the restaurant and that I should be compensated accordingly. 🙂
It is about the money, but it also is about so much more than that.
Thank you for your help and support, this is definitely something I may not have even been able to do before, let alone with the poise and grace I did do it with 🙂