Tips for Improving Self-Esteem

Arne Pedersen

Registered and Certified Counselling Hypnotherapist, Victoria, B.C.

Building Healthy Self-Esteem: Tips and Techniques

Low self-esteem can be like a dark cloud that follows us around, casting shadows on every aspect of our lives. It can limit our potential, dampen our spirits, and prevent us from fully embracing the joys life has to offer. But it doesn’t have to be this way. With the right guidance and tools, you can reclaim your sense of self-worth and rebuild your confidence from the ground up.

Understanding the Problem:

To begin the journey of improving self-esteem, it’s essential to understand how it operates and what may be causing it. Self-esteem is more than just feeling good about ourselves; it’s about having a deep-rooted sense of worthiness and self-acceptance. Often, low self-esteem stems from past experiences, negative self-talk, or comparisons to others. By recognizing these patterns, we can start to unravel the layers and uncover the core issues at play.

Tips for Improving Self-Esteem:

  1. Practice Self-Awareness: Start by tuning into your inner body feelings, sensations, and emotions. By developing a deeper connection with yourself, you can better understand how you relate to the world around you and begin to cultivate self-acceptance, which is a key component to self-esteem.
  1. Practice Stepping Outside of Your Comfort Zone: Growth occurs when we challenge ourselves and embrace new experiences, even if they feel uncomfortable at first. By facing your fears head-on and leaning into discomfort you can expand your horizons and build resilience in the face of adversity. Make sure to start with small steps, as we want to practice building the habit of small successes, one on top of the other that we feel good about, rather than the habit of quitting because we always stretch ourselves too far making ourselves give up and feel bad.
  1. Embrace Mistakes as Opportunities: While mistakes are an inevitable part of life, they do not define us. Rather than viewing mistakes as failures, perceive them as opportunities for growth and learning. It is through these experiences that our character becomes defined. By reframing your perspective and embracing a growth mindset, setbacks can transform into stepping stones on the path to self-improvement.
  1. Seek Therapy Support: Sometimes, improving self-esteem requires additional support from a therapist. Through personalized therapy sessions, you can explore the underlying causes of your low self-esteem, develop coping strategies, and cultivate healthier thought patterns. This can accelerate growth and significantly reduce setbacks, making the investment into a happy and confident sense of self well worth the cost.

Free Consultation:

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem and are ready to make positive changes in your life, I invite you to schedule a free 1-hour zoom video consultation with me. During this session, we can discuss your goals, challenges, and how therapy can support you on your journey to improved self-esteem. Together, we can uncover the root causes of your low self-esteem and develop a personalized plan for healing and growth.


Improving self-esteem is a journey—one that requires patience, perseverance, and self-compassion. By practicing self-awareness, stepping outside your comfort zone, embracing mistakes as opportunities, and seeking therapy support when needed, you can rebuild your sense of self-worth and confidence. And remember, you don’t have to do it alone. Help is just a phone call away.